Solution Found!
When i took apart the mirrors i found the upper plug was just fitted in an empty hole, this is because by default only one mirror has a dimming glass (drivers), but both mirrors support it!
So both have the plugs, both have empty holes for the plugs in case you dont have dimming glasses at all, but both will be used in my case! So those plugs that were in holes not going anywhere, will go in my dimming glasses in both sides!

I have enabled the convenience menu with auto folding and parking aid, do i have to enable anythin else so that the auto dimming will be working? (i do not have a rear view mirror with auto dimming yet)